Tweety

Bah, humbug... I'm the pretty one...

Tweety

Btw, the little one is now fully healed, and since I went on paternal leave 100% for six months just a few days after the surgery, the main reason I haven't been by that much is that being a full time stay at home father to a one year old hyper active girl with no sense of self preservation what so ever and a whole lot of will is a lot more tiring than going to work... Im usually out like a light no more than half an hour after her at night...

By now, it feels like I'm slowly catching up, and I can just about keep her pace without crashing at night... So I get a few hours of doing my own thing...

skokievtr

I'm still barely recovered from your "selfie".

You are right on top of things, as usual. Glad at least the offspring is spritely but your'e a wimpy dad. Mothers stay home for years with multiple children, so much for the "fairer sex".

6 months leave for the father, here the mother takes her chances having a kid and keeping her job with smaller companies let alone fat chance the father getting any leave. Even under communism it did / does not happen. Dam socialists. Bernie should retire by you now! LOL He'll just steal votes from Hillary against the Donald. (Shiver).

Tweety

Oh, dont worry... She'll quite easily tire her mother out too, and keep going... The wife is loath to admit it, but going back to work about now might have been a good move... I'm contemplating if I need to childproof the cabinets over the tabletops next, or if I should give up the fight altogether... Today I found her climbing the bookshelf about three times her own height, as it got all too quiet for about 30 seconds...

According to my mother, I've gotten just the kid I deserve, whatever that means? I was always calm, polite and well behaved, at least that's how I remember it? I can't remember hurling toys at my father at the tender age of 14 months because he refused to let me climb onto the kitchen table (via the chair)...

In Sweden each child equates to the parents having a number of days of paid leave equal to roughly 80% of your normal pay from the government, with a certain number of days earmarked for the father, which 'releases' more for both mother and father if used. Basically, if my wife takes all her days, and I take none, we 'lose' my earmarked days and a few more... And it's also regulated in law, basically as long as I give my employer timely notice of when I want to use those days, my employer cannot legally refuse me, or even fire/reassign me (or my wife)...

Most fathers take at least the minimal earmarked to release the 'extra', but in my case I have an employer that more or less shooed me out the door, informing me that they'd cover the remaining 20% of pay for six months, without being mandated to do so in any way, simply because they are awesome... (It's not very common, but a few employers do this, mostly to encourage taking the time in one big chunk, as they can then get tax breaks on their costs of hiring a replacement in turn...) in my case, it's simply easier for both me and my employer to have me come back after six months, than spread it out in smaller chunks, as that would interrupt work a whole lot more...

I still have a few extra days to use when needed in the future, but most are used up at the end of this... The wife could however stay at home another six months if she needed to/wanted too, but since she's working part time with a few weekend days (retail), she'll just adapt her schedule to when the little one is in daycare, and I get a full day on every third weekend with my little girl, withou mommy getting in the way of our antics...

skokievtr

We have 3 girls (now women) and when young (or since), none ever threw anything at us when cautioned, reprimanded or denied anything. They may have voiced their displeasure or offered rationale as to why they should get what they wanted but violence or physical actions toward us were not part of the program (breath-holding for one was however a short lived response, and there was some feet stamping and back turning, plus some wonderful facial expressions of their extreme displeasure). They also did not watch TV much and preferred to read; and back then there were no home computers or the internet.

It obviously did not hurt their development, as one is an MD (ER physician), another an attorney (doctor of jurisprudence in family law and female protection rights) and the 3rd on her way to also becoming a doctor (veterinarian). My wife (originally a special, kindergarten and 1st grade educator) I "guess" should get 99% of the credit. Engineers are not much for close and extensive human interaction which I presume includes child rearing.

Sounds like some Swedish parents need to develop some new attitude adjustment techniques before it gets worse and they get hurt physically.

Tweety

Well... I handled it in my own very untrained/un-pedagogical way... I threw it right back... Not hard, but on her leg, where she felt it... Haven't happened since, she's a bright one... Instead she just stomps both feet and tries to stare me down instead... So far, that's not working too well though, as her I have had longer training in being stubborn...

As far as I can tell, the problem seems to be that she can't really effectively yell at me, since even when angry it's just rather cute gibberish... And to some extent she seems to know that, which frustrates her to no end... (Her speech is a bit later due to the operation, so she understands a whole lot more than she can actually speak)... I imagine the problem will resolve itself somewhat by the time she can give her father a proper talking too when he's misbehaving, like I'd expect from a stubborn young woman...

She's already an expert negotiator, despite the language barrier... Everything is a negotiation of discussion... (It's a whole lot easier than just having her scream like a banshee...) and like all women she can be corrupted by shiny things and a backrub... Or good snacks...