WTF??
05-04-2009, 07:32 PM
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WTF??
2 years living with me, everything was great, talking about marriage, and then bam. Gone. Apparently she started doing a bunch of coke and meth now, and knew i wasn't going to do it with her, so she found a guy who would. So I got left for a meth-head. What a great day.
05-04-2009, 07:35 PM
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That really sucks, sorry to hear that. I know it won't make you feel too much better right now but better to find out now than later. Obviously from the sounds of things you're better off.
05-04-2009, 07:46 PM
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I know it hurts, nothing you can do will make it better, just time. Just remember to look forward and don't waste time thinking about it and looking back. Not worth it! Sounds like you are way better off.
05-04-2009, 08:21 PM
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Wow - really sorry to hear that. I'm sure that hurts quite a bit. However, you can be REALLY happy she's gone before she starts stealing your crap and freaking out on you, going to jail, etc! "Wait a tic, that means I'm single again baby, yeah!"
05-04-2009, 08:51 PM
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DO NOT get back together with her, she will be back around, guaranteed. I have had a family member addicted to Meth, and it is the Devil. I mean, it is so destructive its hard to describe. This is a blessing in disguise, nothing else. You need to rethink who you are attracted to also, make sure this doesn't happen again with someone else. Go get hammered.
05-04-2009, 09:00 PM
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DO NOT get back together with her, she will be back around, guaranteed. I have had a family member addicted to Meth, and it is the Devil. I mean, it is so destructive its hard to describe. This is a blessing in disguise, nothing else. You need to rethink who you are attracted to also, make sure this doesn't happen again with someone else. Go get hammered.
05-04-2009, 09:07 PM
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Thanks a lot guys. A ride in the rain helped. Even if it was on one cylinder.... I know I'm better off, but I was completely blindsided. I'm sure in hindsight there were signs, but apparently I didn't see them. Man, bitches is crazy.
05-04-2009, 09:15 PM
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Yes some of them are.... well most that I've met have been. but I digress, sorry to hear about your problems dude. You Are much better off by getting away and keeping away. She will try to weasle back, but she will only want money. It's the meth monster in them... A good strip club could help you out..
05-04-2009, 09:47 PM
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I know how you feel, but it's time to move on. Maybe you'll find a woman who rides. My ex-wife was always saying..."you spend too much time surfing and riding". After 20 years she found someone that did neither. Then I found a woman who rides and surfs with me. As stated by others above, you're better off.
05-04-2009, 10:48 PM
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Thats my plan
Sorry to hear it man. I lost my girl to drugs and it changed her. You can live in the past but it will wear you down and its a Huge waste of time.
Put your anger into making the vtr one badass bike
05-04-2009, 11:28 PM
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Wow, great news. Usually people struggle to get someone like that out of their lives. You basicly got a death row pardon. Take those freedom papers and dont look back. Change your phone # & live better. This is just a blessing (not in disguise)
05-04-2009, 11:45 PM
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So who was this???? Same girl????
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05-05-2009, 12:07 AM
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No, I should have made it clear, my ex got pretty flaky a couple weeks back and took off. To be honest I've kind of been in shock. Not really knowing how to feel since I had absolutely no idea why it happened. Well today when she showed up at my house with her new boyfriend to get her stuff she told me about the drugs. I am still going to hawaii with some random broad, but since she's from the internet there's like a 50/50 chance shes either a fat man, or chris hanson... I'm really hoping an adventure like hawaii will get my mind off things...
05-05-2009, 12:48 AM
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The power of meth on its users is worse.
The combination would do only one thing in your life- bring you closer to the meth. And prison. or death.
Oh yea, she will be back around and will pry on your brain like a tool.
Find good used replacement part.
05-05-2009, 02:26 AM
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Make damn sure your place of dwelling is secure. If she's on meth you can bet she'll be back, when you're not home, looking to steal anything she can get her hands on. If she had keys, change the locks. Better yet, if you're renting, move.
05-05-2009, 02:43 AM
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The power of ***** is like the tractor beam on the death star.
The power of meth on its users is worse.
The combination would do only one thing in your life- bring you closer to the meth. And prison. or death.
Oh yea, she will be back around and will pry on your brain like a tool.
Find good used replacement part.
The power of meth on its users is worse.
The combination would do only one thing in your life- bring you closer to the meth. And prison. or death.
Oh yea, she will be back around and will pry on your brain like a tool.
Find good used replacement part.
+1!
Don't look back. Plenty of fish, etc. Or sit on yer hand 'till it's numb...
may I suggest a change of scenery?
like:
05-05-2009, 04:53 AM
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Sorry to hear your situation. Keep things positive and know that this made room for the next person to enter your life. Like others have mentioned, keep an eye out for her to return at some point to steal your stuff or send someone else to do it. She knows what you have and where everything is. Change locks and secure it now.
05-05-2009, 05:48 AM
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I don't understand the attraction to addictive and destructive drugs like meth and heroin, but it's not about understanding.
Like others have said, you are better moving on. But I don't suggest trying to put a cap on your feelings, the hurt can come out in ways that can also be destructive. You're gonna feel like **** for a while, it's life. Just hang in there, do what you love, and you'll be on the mend.
Like others have said, you are better moving on. But I don't suggest trying to put a cap on your feelings, the hurt can come out in ways that can also be destructive. You're gonna feel like **** for a while, it's life. Just hang in there, do what you love, and you'll be on the mend.
05-05-2009, 06:36 AM
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I feel your pain, signs or not, it stills feels like a blindside tackle.
Take solice in knowing that this doesn't hurt as much as being married with kids and having it happened. When you want a pick-me-up, take your pain/grief/agony multiply by 1 Million and there is the hurt of a father.
Now, go take the time to ride. Ride as much as you like. Ride when you like. Ride because you have nothing else to do. Ride because the bike is calling your name. RIDE!
The only other advise I have, is channel your pain/grief/anger/misery or whatever it may be, into a positive. Go to the gym, take up running. It's an effective way to deal with the situation.
Follow the advice of others. Change your locks. Get new ATM cards, better yet, a new account. Shred the old checks.
Take solice in knowing that this doesn't hurt as much as being married with kids and having it happened. When you want a pick-me-up, take your pain/grief/agony multiply by 1 Million and there is the hurt of a father.
Now, go take the time to ride. Ride as much as you like. Ride when you like. Ride because you have nothing else to do. Ride because the bike is calling your name. RIDE!
The only other advise I have, is channel your pain/grief/anger/misery or whatever it may be, into a positive. Go to the gym, take up running. It's an effective way to deal with the situation.
Follow the advice of others. Change your locks. Get new ATM cards, better yet, a new account. Shred the old checks.
05-06-2009, 02:07 AM
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First, get yourself bottle of Jack Daniels and get falling down drunk, preferably with a friend or two you trust. Second, go out and get laid.
When I was 17 or 18 years old I read this scrawled in magic marker on a bathroom stall;
"get all the ***** you can while you're still young."
Made me laugh out loud, but it's advice I took to heart. Don't regret it one bit either.
Having sex with 3 or 4 good looking girls you barely know won't mend a broken heart, but will make it easier to handle. That's my personal experience anyhow.
When I was 17 or 18 years old I read this scrawled in magic marker on a bathroom stall;
"get all the ***** you can while you're still young."
Made me laugh out loud, but it's advice I took to heart. Don't regret it one bit either.
Having sex with 3 or 4 good looking girls you barely know won't mend a broken heart, but will make it easier to handle. That's my personal experience anyhow.
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05-06-2009, 07:26 AM
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I feel your pain
No, I should have made it clear, my ex got pretty flaky a couple weeks back and took off. To be honest I've kind of been in shock. Not really knowing how to feel since I had absolutely no idea why it happened. Well today when she showed up at my house with her new boyfriend to get her stuff she told me about the drugs. I am still going to hawaii with some random broad, but since she's from the internet there's like a 50/50 chance shes either a fat man, or chris hanson... I'm really hoping an adventure like hawaii will get my mind off things...
I actually just went through the same **** not long ago. The fucked up things is that I never really wanted her in the first place but I went through the whole withdraw thing. It was so fucked up. It couldn't be rationalized.
Sometimes I think it is pride...I ended up reviewing **** over and over again all to the detriment of my own well being. It was out of control. I felt like **** at times and the weird part is that I had other girls on the side but it didn't seem to matter. There was even an incident when I just finished hooking up with a girl, went upstairs to wash up and on my way down texted her. I was losing control.
I decided to go to Vegas and 'cool off' but it made the whole situation worst. I began thinking about how it would have been nice if she was around with me, then I texted her. Now looking back it was so stupid. After ******* 6 months, I no longer feel like **** but still miss her. That is the reality. She wants to be friends but I am cutting her off although she is a great person.
I read the other day that people fall in love (not saying that you are nor was I) with a person when they are NOT around. The reason is that we think about them, put them in differing light, feel emotionally attached. This is the same reasoning why I think I felt miserable. I was thinking about her, hence my strong feelings, rather than seeing it for what it was.
Put all her **** in a pile and blow it up. The best thing is to remind yourself of all the shitty things she does that annoys you and say to yourself 'see?'. The truth of the matter is that no matter what you do for the foreseeable future, you will feel like ****. At least, that's my experience.
I wish you luck in going to Hawaii to get over her but I think the only solution is time. Have you seen Forgetting Sarah Marshall?
Good luck
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05-06-2009, 12:32 PM
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2 years living with me, everything was great, talking about marriage, and then bam. Gone. Apparently she started doing a bunch of coke and meth now, and knew i wasn't going to do it with her, so she found a guy who would. So I got left for a meth-head. What a great day.
I know it doesn't feel like it now, but even in this crappy moment, you must be able to appreciate that this is a serious BLESSING in disguise. there isn't a girl on earth who is hot enough to compensate for a raging meth habit. and it will turn anybody into a strung out twitchy, ugly, desperate, dishonest, waste of life. the best thing she could have done for you was leave. now the trick is gonna be keeping her away once she runs out of money. her new "friend" probably has plans for her to support them both one way or another. pimpin ain't easy. she saved you years of futile effort trying to clean her up. you can't clean up a meth head. once they're hooked, there's no going back, I don't care who you are. you might quit for a few years but if its there, they will do it. no matter who they have to lie to, cheat on, steal from, blackmail, or threaten in order to get it. you need to cut her off. permanent. if she calls don't answer. if she shows up, blow her off. do not help her. make her understand that even if she's lying ina ditch, in the snow with 2 broken legs, if she calls you, all she'll get is a swift "**** off". never let her think you might help her in any way. or you'll never be rid of her. think of her as a zombie that can talk. she'll look the part soon enough. forget she ever existed. and hopefully, with a little luck, she won't for much longer.
